What if the key lies within you?

Do you know this feeling?

You keep getting stuck in the same problems. The same conflicts. The same patterns of thought and behavior. It’s like you keep crashing into the same wall over and over again – only the impact gets harder each time. So you change your job. You end the relationship. You move into a new apartment or even a new city. And for a moment – maybe for a few weeks or months – everything feels new. Lighter. Liberating.

But then? They show up again. The old themes. The same patterns. The familiar blockages. Most of the time, your “suffering” feels so familiar that you don’t even notice anymore how tense, stressed, and disconnected from yourself you actually are. An automatic program kicks in, and you run on autopilot without truly realizing it.

The way out is back to yourself

At some point, you might notice that nothing has really changed. And that’s frustrating. You’re not alone in this. Many people look for the solution outside themselves – hoping that a new person or a new place will free them from themselves. But here’s the uncomfortable truth: As long as you don’t sort out your inner world, nothing on the outside will fundamentally change.

It’s even scientifically proven: After about nine months, the same problems settle back in – no matter if you’re in a new relationship, living in a new apartment, or seeing new opportunities in a new job. Because you always take yourself with you: your beliefs. Your fears. Your wounds. Your inner drivers. The only way out is inward. Sit down. Close your eyes. Breathe in. Breathe out. Listen – not to the outside, but to yourself.

The first step

No drama. No grand goal. Just the simple courage to be present. With whatever is. That’s the first step. And with honesty, take responsibility. This is where the practice begins: sitting down every day – even if it’s just 5 minutes – pausing, sensing what is alive within you. Thoughts, feelings, physical sensations – simply being there without needing to change anything.

A consistent yoga practice supports you in this. Not only physically, but especially mentally: it helps you ground yourself, feel your breath, calm your mind, and build a loving connection with yourself. It also helps you mindfully notice when the autopilot wants to take over, and then rise above yourself and your problems. After all, certain things keep showing up until we finally rise above them. Until we see through them, stop clinging to them, and let them go for good.

When does change begin?

And sometimes – when you notice that even with inner work you keep ending up at the same spot – it can be helpful to look deeper. For example, in a family constellation, to reveal and release unconscious entanglements, inherited burdens, or old loyalties. Change doesn’t begin with your partner. Not with your boss. Not in a new apartment. It begins with you. Every single day.